Why do you think that some ups and downs of your relationship mean that you are done with it? Currently you are not in the best phase of relationship but did you forget the most beautiful feelings that you enjoyed when you were with him? Please stop and have a look on the positive sides. No one is perfect but you have to ignore the shortcomings of the person you love the most. Divorce or breakup is not the solution. Even Adam and Eve had an argument in heaven. You are not better than them.
Believe me everyone goes through this phase at some point of relationships. Do you think money can make your love stronger? Then why is there a great ratio of divorces between superstars of film industry? You would have seen many couple even your parents that they argue sometime but at the end they are always love each other because they know that it’s only you that can make this relationship going. Money or your fame can not buy Love. It’s a gift from God. And you should be happy to have such loving Partner.
If your marriage is more in ruins than the Coliseum itself, think wisely, breathe deeply and take the commitment to embark on a true mission of rescue of your loved one. We supposed you are feeling hurt and you fear to wear your heart on your sleeve again, It’s not that easy, but to achieve it, it is only necessary way to make the decision with courage, no matter how wounded we are.
Sometimes you should let your heart rule your head to see clearly in love.
If we have a stormy relationship and we are willing to recover it, we must first ask ourselves certain questions:
How much do we know about love? Do I really know how to love? Do I really know in what stage my relationship is? If you are obvious of what love truly means, let me sketch some stages from which all marriages go through.
Any relationship can be divided into the following stages:
- The lovey-dovey stage: You like each other, and the flame of love begins to surface.
- The head over heels phase: you feel like on a honeymoon and everything is perfect, there is love everywhere and you even build your own love-nest.
- Blazing rows phase: Chaos or disillusionment begins; suddenly your couple has turned into someone you didn’t know.
- Get together or break up phase: In this stage, you decide whether you want to continue on this journey in spite of going through a bit of a rough path or if you decide to end up on good terms.
- Dead marriage or not together for years: Suddenly after few years, you start to feel about your partner and want him back but thought it is late. But let me clear you something that it’s never too late for you to get your partner back.
No more Marriages on the rocks!
If you identify yourself in phase 3, 4 and 5 then the following tips will help your marriage out of the dark. It does not matter if you are woman or man; we are all human beings in search of authentic love. We all want to be the love of someone’s life but how to continue giving love without the initial emotions?
Marriage is a matter of two, doing things that nurture you and make you stay together more and more is the solution. Your partner should also show a bit of will, but unfortunately, you cannot do it all alone, as Walter Riso says” when there is love is shown, but when there is not, it is even more noticeable because the indifference never goes unnoticed.” Take care of your heart and anticipate another disappointment!
A mature person loves by choice and by circumstances, if you are sure of your love begins with the first step: Show that you love him/her.
Make your partner your # 1 priority
Loving leads us to forgive, to yield, to heal and to continue. Being sincere with your feelings will show that willingness that is absent when we discuss with our partner. But what’s the fun part?
You must show your love creatively, this is the time to hire an orchestra, buy a float of roses or plan a dream getaway. You need it too, take your suitcase, your bathing suit or your winter jacket and take your spouse to a place where only you have each other, where there are no excuses to speak, to look at each other and to love and be loved. This is like going back to your first wedding night.
Forgive to be forgiven
The second step is to show our willingness to improve our mistakes: we know that we are not perfect and that our partner has chosen us for life, taking into account our shortcomings and virtues, but sometimes we fail and to encourage forgiveness and the desire to improve in the other person we need to take that first step.
Have a sincere conversation about those mistakes you have made and about those things you do every day that probably makes your partner go mad, and promise to improve them until there is nothing on the list. Listening attentively is important because sometimes we do things wrong and we don’t even realize it.
Be a loved-up couple.
The third step is to start building the relationship you want for life. The time to make the change is now and the way is radical. Dream with your partner, fly over the clouds thinking about all the good things you want to do together and start doing them. Make yourself feel appreciated, loved and valued as if there were no other man or woman for you in this world. Focus the reasons why you almost end up as a couple was the discussions, control or jealousy? Eliminate all those aspects of your marital life.
Making your partner feel that you are willing to treat him or her, as she/he deserves, will eliminate any thought of seeking someone else, hence the likelihood of infidelity will be very low.
Undress your soul
The fourth step has to do with intimacy. This is one of the aspects by which couples end up more. Skin-to-skin contact is as necessary as a soul-to-soul contact. Couples who argue are usually so affected that they do not want to get close to each other. But the time has come to give vent to the lust and feed the passions.
Finally, become an intimate husband or wife with your partner, if there were details of her/his personality or work that you had not noticed before, start detailing them showing support and dedication every day.
Do not give up if you had a dead marriage. Just remember! Love brings up emotions that run the gamut from agony to ecstasy. Love can inspire us to accomplish some of the craziest and most amazing dreams.
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