Retreat to your childhood. Make a list of all the things you thought you wanted to be when you were younger and why. List everything down, even if it was a circus clown. Think about the things in life that shifted your decision to chase that path and reflect on what path you settled for. Do you wish to change the path your on?
Enlightenment Begins Within
Constantly living in fear of what can happen, will ruin what is happening. I know this too well. Because I’m doing it.
Abandonment Issues, heard the term? It typically happens when a caregiver or parent doesn’t give the child enough attention or attentive behaviors the child needs. Traumatized by life, or the things people have done to them.. tricky thing is, over time the child turns to an adult, having learned these patterns of how their caregivers “lack of” has always been. While in romantic or platonic relationships, when the same patterns arise they automatically recognize, the overwhelming anxiety and fear sets in. These people may also exhibit behaviors that push people to leave so they’re never surprised by the loss.
Many who suffer with this issue often find themselves fearing real intimacy, cycling through relationships in order to avoid heartache. When they find someone, the sometimes become irrational, self sabotaging themselves to leave. Many find themselves staying in unhealthy relationships simply because they don’t want to be alone. Last but not least, WE NEED CONSTANT REASSURANCE.
Everyone has or will leave. That’s how it’s always been. Unfortunately, there’s no cure for this. It’s a form of overwhelming anxiety. You either learn who to hold on to and who to let go. I wish it was as easy as just trusting your words, but when actions follow.. we learn, we “wall up” push you to leave, or we leave. It’s not simple or easy for anyone involved. It takes Trust, Communication, and Actions.
“I give anyone a chance, but once you come at me left, then my perception of you has changed for life. Because You didn’t have to do me like you did. And you know I’m 100. But you did that.” -Kevin Gates
How do we stop blaming others for our unhappiness when they never caused the pain we silently suffer from? Self Sabotage at its finest hour!
The smallest thing can set off a full episode. The first sign of sketchiness, doubt or even simply recognized patterns, we step right into flight or fight mode. What steps do you take to overcome this anxiety? Triggers will be everywhere, and what defines you is how you deal with it. I usually call a friend, but if that’s not possible stepping outside to breath and think more positively can help.
Okay. So say you have already surpassed the anxiety and a full fledged panic attack is on the rise, what do you do then? If you want to avoid taking the pain out on those around you, I suggest isolation for a few moments is still always a positive way to deal accordingly.
Long term pointers- Surrounding yourself with people who understand, is always a good way towards healing. I know it sounds weird, how can they help? Just a support system in place is the biggest step, helping aim you down your path to inward self healing. Guidance, advice, or just someone to vent to. All very serious contributions.
Isolation for a few moments can be very soothing to your mind. No conflicting opinions. Just silence to breath. Say a mantra, sing a song, or Count to 10! It’s silly, but it can help. If it gets to the point, these don’t help.. call someone to help talk you down. Are you in a position, to ask for help? Don’t be scared. I know people just don’t get it, but I promise there are a few who do.
If you have an open communication with your loved ones.. I suggest always telling them how you feel. Maybe not all of it at once, but bits an pieces along the way so they can learn that this happens. And, please apologize before hand when explaining that although they haven’t done things necessarily to you, triggers can’t be avoided but understanding for future endeavors can be very important. I know this road isn’t easy, but the more you learn about it, Talk about it and put those teachings into action, the easier the process of changed behavior can be for you and those around you as well.
Topics of Duscussion
Following the root and branches if what the underline cause of your “everyday” anxiety.
Social Theory referred to ideas, arguments, hypothesis, thought-experiements and explanatory speculations about how and why humans societies – or elements or structures of such societies- come to be form change and delvelope over time or disappear.
Www.oxfordbibligraphies.com July 27th 2011
Social contructionist theory
Theories by: Spencer and Durkheim, Weber and Pareto
All analytical frameworks, paradigms, used to study and interpret social phenomenon.
Topics of Duscussion
Following the root and branches if what the underline cause of your “everyday” anxiety.
Social Theory referred to ideas, arguments, hypothesis, thought-experiements and explanatory speculations about how and why humans societies – or elements or structures of such societies- come to be form change and delvelope over time or disappear.
Www.oxfordbibligraphies.com July 27th 2011
Social contructionist theory
Theories by: Spencer and Durkheim, Weber and Pareto
All analytical frameworks, paradigms, used to study and interpret social phenomenon.
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